Open Letter To Jon & Kate Gosselin: Advice You Didn't Ask For After Season Premiere
Posted: Tuesday, May 26, 2009
by Abigail Richards
Last night I am sure we all watched in interest as Jon and Kate Gosselin discussed their marriage in their season premiere of Season 5 for their show.
I have to admit that I was a fan of the show from the beginning just because it is interesting to watch these eight kids interact and grow. Last night, was a little discomforting so I wanted to write this letter.
I understand Kate how you feel. Your body is numb and everything feels surreal. By the end of the day, you have a fading memory of the events that took place that day. You feel as if you are going through the motions of your daily activities. You are loving on your kids extra hard because you feel they need it since they are unaware of their world falling apart. Take some comfort in knowing that I have been in your place, that the majority of marriages have been in your place.
You have a choice now. You can take the easy way out and get a divorce or you can work towards something that is so much better that you never imagined a marriage this good. I say this to you because I know you are a Christian. God had this happen for a reason. Are you going to listen to him and work your butt off to figure out what he wants or are you going to take the easy way out?
When I went through this, I find comfort in a book by Beth Moore. It is called Praying God's Word. I suggest it to you at this time. I would go workout and pray the prayers dealing with unforgiveness, rejection and insecurity as I ran on the treadmill. This helped.
It is hard to sit and watch your show because it is a reminder of how close divorce comes for many. Kate, there are those that don't turn to that route and end up living a better life because of it. You need to turn to God now for strength, dependability and trust. He can provide those things.
Then when it comes down to it, you have to live out the Ephesians verse of submission. I think that means canceling the show until you figure this stuff out. You both need some good counseling. I think you are so hurt right now, your communication with Jon is down the drain. You need that back. You need to laugh together and find the reasons you fell in love to begin with.
Jon, you need to work on selfishness. It says to love your wife like Christ loved the church. I am not sure about your faith. It is quite simple, though. Christ sacrificed everything for the church. Does this mean that you are to stay home and be the caretaker while Kate is on her book tours? This is really something you and Kate need to decide. It doesn't sound like something you wanted and in turn, made some mistakes in letting her know that. Bring back communication and sacrifice. I don't think you want a divorce either.
For the both of you, it is not about doing what is best for the kids. I know loving the kids is easy, but loving each other should come first. Instead of going on trips with one kid for a break, try a trip just the two of you. Go to one of those marriage retreats. Work through these issues. Do not let the public watch you destroy one another or your marriage.
You have the opportunity to make a difference in how society views marriage. You have the opportunity to show hope and faith in action. Don't quit. Don't let the enemy win in tearing up your family. You have the opportunity to affect millions, opportunities and influence that pastors across the world dream about having. Take this seriously and show the true meaning of love.
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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)After watching the show last night, I was crying especially at the part where one of the little girls at the party hugged Jon and said "I dont want you to leave anymore". I wanted to tell Jon and Kate exactly what you wrote but didnt have the words and I was afraid they wouldnt read it. Can you make sure they get this letter??? I cant imagine them splitting up and I have been praying to God since last night when I found out. There so much more I want to say but thank you for writing this letter.sincerely,Jennifer M. AplinThanks Jennifer for the comment!! I will be praying right along with you!!
In my opinion, Kate also needs to treat Jon as a M-A-N. She continually degrades him, yells at him in front of the children, which is very bad. A man needs to be treated like a man and not a child. Or he just might look somewhere else to someone who actually treats him with respect.
I agree u can take the easy way out or you can work it out like families do. I love the show and it just wouldn't be the same without one of you. I think that Jon and Kate should just talk it out, even if they have to do it off camera get each others story straight. I could understand that none of you could do anything with out people taken pictures but such is life you both chose to record your children's life. Dont let what others think or say separate you both. God has put you as a couple together dont let the devil steal your joy. Think about all what has happened throught out the years and how far you made it. Think about do you really love him/her? come on now people will always talk.
this is stephanie again i have left comments in other places i dont know how everyone thinks you are mean you take care of your kids clean your house still work take care or jon and two dogs i think you do everything perfect and i would never change a thing about you dont let no one bring you down i love you guys and want everything to go back to normal i wish i could talk to you face to face or even write you a letter take care
To everyone,Please we all know Kate doesn't take care of these kids or manage there house. She has people doing it for her. I am not saying she is bad but she is no Supermom in any way.. She is nothing like my wife that does it all and works full time. We have six children and no one is kissing her behind like Kate's. Kate does nothing and for all you woman that actually do this on a normal day I salute you as well. I will not give Kate any credit for anything to me if TLC want to really do a show, they need to fallow her day to day events without cutting any part out. We will then see that she doesn't truelly take care of those kids and actually its a joke.Jon is no better but no worse. We all know men are dogs and I am a man so I know this to be true. Let remember this if a man wants a woman he has to ask and it takes a woman to say enter or close the door. Woman that let these men enter are at fault as well, just like the ESPN gentlemen.The kids - what about the kids? Yes these kids are all gorgeous and loveable but who will know how these two selfishness parents are going to destory their lives. Thing how would you want to grow up and attend school and all the students my fun of you because you crazy parents. We all know this will happen. How are the kids going to walk the street with people saying that's one of the Gosselins the ones who made that joke of a TV reality show.Then there us that love to see the misery of others. This soap opera should stop and the blame should be TLC. They are the ones that love this stuff and making money on it. Remember misery loves company!!!Finally we all should remember its not about the kids anymore, its about money. Do u really think Jon or kate would have a million dollar house or 230K in their bank account with that many children. I don't think so!!! Look how many free trips they have gone to and all the stuff they have had to their stomach, hair inplants, lipo, etc..its all free but what if they were not on the air? How would they really be and act! They are making a joke out of us because they are getting paid. Life is so funny to me both are a joke and neither really care about anything. People speak about how good Kate is when we really don't know why she doesn't speak to her own parents and jon- Wow I don't even care.. I hope their ten minutes of fame is over and out of our TV's. I just hope the kids will be happy but I doubt it, not with these two bozo's fight in public and exposing the hate towards each other.
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